Beginning the Process of Adoption
Thousands of people are choosing adoption as a way of becoming mothers and fathers. Quite often the medical procedures used to assist in becoming pregnant seemed extremely invasive to those who tried them. No matter their motives, the choice to adopt ranks as one of the most life-altering choices in your life. Adoption may not be your first choice, but it is not second best.
The first issue you need to think about is the legal aspect of adoption. To avoid problems, it is important that you are familiar with local laws and regulations as well as the Hague Treat on international adoptions. You should decide as early as possible whether you prefer a local (domestic) adoption, which involves a child born in the United States, or if you prefer, an international adoption. If you choose the latter of the two, the laws regulating immigration to and from the U.S. will have a strong influence on the process.
There are many agencies, both public and private, should you decide to ask for their assistance and expertise during the development of the adoption. With international adoptions, you may want to think about seeking the aid of an agency that will be well versed in the legal elements affecting the planned adoption.
The majority of adoptive mothers and fathers start the process expecting to adopt a newborn but later realize an older child is more to their liking. The age you prefer is a deciding factor. If you decide on an older child, you will need to respect his or her emotions and individuality. Give them time to adjust without further damaging their feelings of self-worth. Remember that a number of these children, especially the older ones, may have come from houses or situations that were harmful to their health and well-being. It may cause them to feel scared, distant, or upset in the beginning. They may have difficulty bonding with the adoptive family. Counseling is a good idea in these situations.