Three Ways to Bond With Your Adopted Infant
For many adoptive parents and infants, bonding comes almost instantaneously. For others it takes some time. All things considered, you have all these expectations for your adopted baby. Perhaps you've been through rounds and rounds of fertility treatments, the adoption home study process and months or even many years of waiting around. You've got in your mind the picture of the perfect baby whom you will bond to right away.
If this instant bond doesn't happen, whether on your part, or the baby's part, don't get worried. It is going to happen. Here are a few suggestions for bonding with your infant:
Baby wearing: There are a lot of adoptive parents who may not be aware of the benefits of baby-wearing. One great benefit to baby-wearing is the fact that if your baby has acid-reflux problems, the upright carrying will help relieve their symptoms. It's also been proven to be good for your baby's legs. There are ring-type slings, chest carriers, and many others! You can take care of chores around your home – vacuuming, dishwashing, laundry -- all while having your baby with you so you can bond.
Singing and talking with your baby: Babies don't care if you have a perfect voice. They just want to hear your voice. The more you talk/sing to your baby, the more comfortable they'll become with you being around them.
Sleep with the infant's clothes and blankets: Many times, it's recommended that you sleep with your adopted child's clothes or blankets in your bed before they come home from the hospital. Doing so will attach your scent to the items and when the baby comes home, you can dress them in the clothes or cover them with the blanket. The baby will pick up on the scent and will be more comfortable when you are around them because your scent will be recognizable. It's a great way to bond!
Remember, for some initial infant bonding may come easily, but for others it will take some time. Just be patient!
From the Baby
"I wanted to send you a very special note to thank you for helping me join my new family. My mom and dad are so happy, and I'm having lots of fun. I really love my new home and thank you so very much for the part you and everyone in your office had in making my family so happy!!"
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