Adopting Older Children – Attachment Issues
Relationships take time and the older the adopted children are, the more time it could take. Provide a great deal of verbal reassurance that adoptive families are permanent and you will still be his or her mom or dad even when you are walking with a cane and all your hair has turned grey. You need to discover whether a particular problem behavior is an adoption problem or a standard child development pattern. Chat with your post-placement social worker about behaviors that worry you. They will help you locate outside resources if standard interventions do not seem to be doing the job.
Work hard to help your adopted child adjust, but don't forget you're adjusting too. A few moms and dads said they hoped to feel a bond to their older adopted child immediately, but it took a little while. Many experts state that whenever a child has been with you as long as they were with a different caregiver, a final stretch of bonding and connection takes place. Someday this process will be remembered with lots of loving memories.
To learn more about adopting an older child, please contact us today! We look forward to speaking with you.
You've been wonderful through this whole thing. Very helpful, understanding and patient. This is probably one of the hardest things in life to go through. You found the perfect parents for my baby. No one in this world could be better than them."
(Birth Mother) Catrina
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