Post Adoption Depression

Many individuals have, of course, heard of postpartum depression which occurs in women who have recently given birth. In today's society, it has even become widely recognized and accepted. Unfortunately, many people in the U.S. don't understand what post adoption depression is or just how unsettling it can be for new moms and dads. A recent survey indicated that out of 145 new adoptive parents, 65% of them showed signs of post adoption depression, or “baby blues.” Post adoption depression syndrome (PADS) is experienced by adoptive parents who choose to adopt internationally as well as domestically. So, it's not limited to just one group of adoptive individuals. It also effects both genders.

PADS only seems natural for new parents. After all, most couples going through the adoption process have spent years and years struggling with infertility and then the complex, involved adoption process. All throughout the process, parents dream about what their child will be like. How will they sound? Will they like me? Will I be a good parent? Will I love them the same as a biological child? All these questions and many more race through the heads of potential adoptive parents. Once reality hits and they have their child, some dreams and questions aren't answered and they are left feeling “let down.” Perhaps the baby doesn't get attached very easily at first, or maybe your new teenage son is defiant and doesn't show much gratitude for your selfless act. New adoptive parents in these situations often feel a lot of grief and sometimes even blame themselves for their adopted child's behavior when it's really nobody's fault. Some children just need a little time to adjust to their new surroundings but they love you just the same and you will love them like a biological child.

Unfortunately, many adoptive parents don't acknowledge or recognize symptoms of PADS and they are left “toughing it out.” This can be very dangerous and harmful to you. Imagine coming home from work one evening and discovering that your adopted older child has gotten in trouble at school. Often, feelings of guilt and doubt go through your mind and you may say something to him or her that you don't really mean. This built-up stress and anxiety must be dealt with and recognized to prevent emotional harm to your adopted child.

Typically, PADS will last for a few weeks after your adopted child has come home. You don't need to suffer through these weeks, though. Contact Radis Adoptions for more information about what you can do to help treat your symptoms and feel better about your choice for adoption.