Open Adoption Facts
The adoption professionals at Radis Adoptions address the worries of potential adoptive parents.
Typical Fears of Adoptive Parents:
CONCERN: Open adoption can be risky.
FACT: At Radis Adoptions, we feel that open adoption is much less risky. We cautiously evaluate each situation to be sure that there is a sound match between both sides. This sets the foundation for stable, lawfully binding adoptions.
CONCERN: Open adoption is quite pricey.
FACT: An open adoption is no more expensive than a closed or semi-open adoption.
A tax credit exists in 2012 that may not be available in subsequent years. It is determined on a year by year basis.
CONCERN: Isn't it more difficult for a woman to accept the placement if she sees her child on a regular basis?
FACT: Since birthparents can see the child being well cared for and loved in the adoptive home, they are convinced that the child has the type of life they wanted for him or her. Had they not had the opportunity to see their son or daughter, it might only have increased their worry that the child was not being taken care of.
CONCERN: I'll feel envious of, or threatened by, the birthparents if they are inside our day-to-day lives.
FACT: Some adoptive parents don't feel this way and are happy that the birthparents are part of their little one's life; some do.
CONCERN: There aren't any limitations within an open adoption. The birthparents will stop by when they want.
FACT: Adoptive mothers and fathers and birthparents create an open adoption agreement, a personalized plan which describes ahead of time the amount of continuous visits and the exchange of letters and photographs.
CONCERN: Ongoing contact is only going to benefit the birthparents.
FACT: Openness benefits all involved. It enables an adopted child to go on with life and development without fantasies. It solidifies the adopted child's family relationships because they understand that those who are raising them are their real life-long mother and father. They'll feel safer within their family and home, with the comfort of other special people in their daily life, from aunts and uncles to birthparents. Without unneeded mysteries or secrets for those parties, lives can go on much more calmly.
CONCERN: Within an open adoption, my relatives are going to be less welcoming of my baby.
FACT: The openness of an adoption has significant advantages. Many prospective adoptive parents involve their loved ones and network of close friends in the process of adoption right from the start. They speak with everybody they can concerning the details of open adoption and their decision to adopt and request assistance in getting the news out about their efforts to find birthparents. Some individuals are hesitant since they know little regarding open adoption. Even so, many adopting parents and birthparents can describe open adoption to relatives and friends in ways which help to ease their concerns.
CONCERN: I'm scared open adoption will be complicated for my child.
FACT: Children in open adoption usually are not confused by knowing both their adoptive mother and father as well as their birthparents. They understand their birthparents symbolize their biological origins and their adoptive parents are just mom and dad. They are fully aware who their parents are: they are the individuals who are raising them, who're always there, and who love and look after them every single day.
CONCERN: When my child is a teen, she will choose to live with her birthparents.
FACT: This really is not as likely to happen when children know their birthparents because they have no fantasies regarding their birthparents. Children of open adoption bond with their adoptive parents just as powerfully as children who are raised by their biological mother and father.
CONCERN: I am scared the birthparents will try to challenge my relationship with my child.
FACT: Within an open adoption, the birthparents' role is to support the adoptive parents as the child's mother and father. The birthparents don't compete with the adoptive mother and father. Healthy, open adoption relationships feature sensible and mutually respected limitations.
CONCERN: If my child's birthparents see how adorable and happy he or she is, won't they want him or her back?
FACT: No, whenever birthparents see how content the child is, it reinforces that they made the best choice.
Open adoption is not for everyone. There are different degrees of openness, from just having personal knowledge of each other to ongoing visitation post-birth.
Please do not hesitate to call us at 800-813-9345 for more information about choosing open adoption.
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-Dan and Jill
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