The Transition From Infertility to Adoption
For a lot of couples, the decision to proceed with adoption comes after many months or even years of struggling to become pregnant. We know that it's difficult letting go of the dream of having your own biological children. However, if you want children, you may have to let go of this emotional heartache and look into pursuing adoption. As David Radis likes to say, “Adoption may not have been your first choice but it is not second best.”
Deciding When to Stop Medical Treatments
We know that infertility can be described as an emotional roller coaster by couples who have gone through it. It's hard to accept when you've been expecting to have your own biological child since you got married. It can be difficult coming to terms with this painful realization, but you must remember that there are other options available to you if you and your spouse want to become parents.
Donor options are usually available and even presented by fertility doctors as another option for building your family. This may be something you wish to pursue. Ask yourself what you're most comfortable with. Yes, these are difficult things to think of right now when you are upset about not having your biological bundle of joy, but it still needs to be carefully considered before making a decision.
If you have been pursuing medical options, you need to decide where to draw the line with medical fertility treatments. Maybe after a number of cycles you will decide to try one more treatment, two more treatments, three more treatments, and if they all fail, you will decide to stop the process. Some couples have what is known as unexplained infertility; this can become very frustrating and costly. It's important to draw the line somewhere so you and your spouse aren't spending your resources on the impossible.
Some individuals may feel regret after deciding to stop pursuing fertility treatments. There is light at the end of the tunnel, however. There are so many children waiting to be adopted by a loving family. Whether you want a baby or an older child, there is a special little boy or girl who is waiting for you. Before choosing adoption for your family, you need to think about a few things. Do you want to adopt within the U.S. or would you rather adopt from another country such as China or Brazil. How old do you want your child to be? You need to understand the situation that comes with raising a newborn as well as what comes with raising a young child. Do you want a girl or a boy—or a surprise? All of these questions and many more must be thought of before choosing adoption.
If you'd like more information about the adoption process, please feel free to contact Radis Adoptions and we will be happy to help you today!